About Jamie
Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) based in California. He uses a client-centered approach that aims to help people feel heard, grounded, and able to speak honestly about what matters to them. He often blends attachment-focused work with practical strategies from cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy.
That mix lets him attend to relationship patterns while offering tools for stress, mood, and impulse challenges. He draws on 21 years of experience in clinical practice.
How Jamie works
Jamie has particular experience with substance and impulse problems and approaches these issues from a harm reduction perspective. He supports people at whatever stage they are at with substance use or behaviors, helping them reduce harm, set realistic goals, or explore change at their own pace.
He also works with concerns such as trauma and abuse, grief, depression, anxiety, relationship and intimacy problems, body image and eating issues, parenting stress, and caregiver strain. Additional focus areas include attachment issues, blended family concerns, communication problems, and sex culture topics like BDSM and kink.
Sessions are offered in English and are available through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. Jamie frames therapy as collaborative work where clients and therapist decide goals and next steps together.
Jamie lists 14 ways of working on the entry:
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Gottman Method
- Imago Relationship Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
What Jamie works with
The areas below are the ones Jamie selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Intimacy-related issues
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Parenting issues
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 21 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | California |
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Online support options
Approaches that guide online care
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early relationship patterns shape current bonds. In practice this means noticing how people connect, where trust feels hard, and working to create new ways of relating that feel safer and more satisfying. Client-Centered Therapy centers the person's experience and priorities, giving space to be heard and to make choices about direction and pace. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers concrete tools to notice thoughts and behaviors, and to try small experiments that change mood and functioning.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist and client decide together which methods fit best, based on the person's goals, values, and comfort. That collaborative process can shift over time as needs change.
Online sessions are offered through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. Video lets people use visual cues and longer conversation, phone can be a simpler connection when bandwidth is limited, live chat works for shorter check-ins, and text messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options make it easier to schedule therapy around work, caregiving, or other commitments while keeping continuity of care with a licensed professional.
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