About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with 27 years of professional experience. She focuses on helping people manage stress, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship and intimacy concerns, and coping with life changes. Lani works with adults on issues such as parenting strain, career challenges, addictions, ADHD, and compassion fatigue.
Sessions are offered in English and are provided remotely through video, phone, live chat, or text messaging. Lani describes a practical, active approach in sessions.
How Lani works
She uses short-term methods when those fit and will also work longer term when needed. Common tools include talking through current problems, learning different ways to think about difficulties, and practicing mindfulness to reduce reactivity. The aim is clearer coping steps and better day-to-day functioning.
Her background spans public agency work and independent practice. Lani earned a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Chapman University and completed gerontology coursework at Sacramento State University. She spent many years serving county and agency settings, including work focused on chronically mentally ill adults and older adults.
That experience shaped her comfort with complex medical and caregiving issues. Over the years Lani has supported people affected by trauma, chronic pain and illness, blended family dynamics, fertility and caregiver stress, and the emotional fallout of major life events. She also has experience offering structured interventions for those exposed to workplace or school-related traumatic events.
Her style is warm, deliberate, and goal-focused. People who choose Lani can expect a collaborative process to set reachable goals, practical strategies to try between sessions, and flexible remote options that fit busy lives. She aims to help people move toward greater stability, clearer relationships, and renewed hope.
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What Lani works with
The areas below are the ones Lani selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 27 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | California |
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Online support options
How Lani’s approaches translate to online therapy
Client-Centered Therapy is about listening closely and shaping sessions around each person’s priorities. It helps people feel heard, clarify what matters most, and set personal goals. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, focuses on the links between thoughts, feelings, and behavior. It offers practical exercises to reduce anxiety, manage mood, and change unhelpful thinking patterns.Navigating the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with the client to choose which methods to try based on current problems, personal goals, and comfort with different techniques. Sessions often combine elements from several approaches so the plan matches the person’s needs.
Online therapy with video, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging makes sessions easier to fit into daily life. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when that is helpful. Phone sessions can be a simpler option with lower bandwidth. Live chat and text messaging are useful for shorter check-ins, quick coping prompts, or when typing is preferred. These options provide flexibility while keeping focus on progress and practical steps.
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