About Mary
Mary Ruhland uses a client-centered approach to guide people through hard emotional times. She listens closely and helps people identify what matters to them. Mary is a licensed independent social worker with 30 years of experience and brings calm focus to each session.
She commonly helps with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, trauma and abuse, and addictions. She also supports concerns like self-esteem, body image, intimacy-related issues, panic attacks, and mood disorders.
How Mary works
Sessions often address feelings of isolation, control issues, and the fallout from divorce and separation. Mary blends practical tools with emotional work. She uses cognitive behavioral strategies to spot unhelpful thoughts and DBT skills to manage strong emotions.
Emotionally focused methods and Gottman-informed ideas shape how she looks at relationship patterns and communication problems. Her work emphasizes clear goals and steady progress. People can expect skill-building, emotion regulation practice, and chance to process painful memories at a manageable pace.
The tone in sessions is direct but compassionate, with attention to forgiveness, guilt and shame, and reclaiming purpose. Mary practices in Iowa as an LISW and holds a CSW-PIP credential. She offers sessions in English by video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging.
To begin, users follow the site’s Start Therapy steps to match and schedule sessions.
Mary lists 10 ways of working on the entry:
What Mary works with
The areas below are the ones Mary selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Body image
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Post-traumatic stress
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Training and background
| Registers | LISW, CSW-PIP |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 30 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | Iowa |
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Online support options
Therapeutic approaches for online healing
Client-centered therapy puts the person’s needs and goals at the center of work. The therapist listens without judgment and helps people clarify values, make choices, and build on their own strengths. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, focuses on identifying unhelpful thought patterns and testing them with practical exercises to reduce symptoms like anxiety and depression. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, teaches concrete skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and improving communication in tense moments.Choosing the right approach is part of the process. Mary will work collaboratively to pick tools and methods that match each person’s needs, goals, and preferences. That may mean starting with skills-based work, then shifting to deeper emotional processing as trust grows.
Online therapy offers flexibility in how sessions happen. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier to fit into a lunch break, and live chat or text-based messaging supports brief check-ins or ongoing reflection between appointments. These options make it simpler to get regular support while juggling daily responsibilities.
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