About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing from Minnesota. She brings 13 years of clinical experience and a commitment to affirming people whose lives don’t fit dominant expectations. Nicole uses an accepting, exploratory style and centers each person’s own goals and values in sessions.
Her work emphasizes respect for sexual and gender diversity, including kink, consensual non-monogamy, and LGBTQIA+ identities. Nicole names herself as sex-positive and acknowledges asexuality as a valid experience.
How Nicole works
She prefers to follow what clients bring rather than rely only on diagnostic labels. Nicole often uses solution-focused ideas alongside client-centered conversation to help people clarify next steps. She also draws on cognitive and behavioral tools and skills from dialectical behavior therapy when helpful for managing intense emotions and stress.
Motivational interviewing can help when people face big changes or mixed feelings about goals. Her background includes work in behavioral health settings and long-term involvement facilitating survivor and advocacy groups. That history shaped a practice that pays attention to power, oppression, and multicultural concerns.
Nicole frames therapy as collaborative and non-directive, offering perspective while treating the client as the expert in their own life. Sessions emphasize practical strategies, clearer communication, and building safety around intimacy and relationship concerns.
Nicole is interested in issues such as anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, ADHD, grief, chronic pain and illness, career strain, and the particular stresses that come from prejudice or discrimination.
Nicole lists 6 ways of working on the entry:
What Nicole works with
The areas below are the ones Nicole selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also listed
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 13 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | Minnesota |
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Online support options
Approaches that guide online sessions and practical support
Client-centered therapy focuses on listening, acceptance, and helping people clarify what matters most to them; it suits concerns like identity, relationship questions, and emotional confusion. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts, feelings, and actions connect and teaches concrete skills to change unhelpful patterns, which is useful for anxiety, depression, and panic. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, offers emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal skills when emotions feel overwhelming or relationships are strained.Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. Nicole will talk with each person about their goals, preferences, and what has or hasn’t helped in the past, then recommend approaches to try. This is a collaborative process and adjustments can be made as therapy progresses.
Online therapy options include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging, which give flexibility for different schedules and needs. Video calls allow fuller conversation and nonverbal cues, phone sessions can fit into a break or need less bandwidth, live chat is good for brief check-ins, and text messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These formats make it easier to keep therapy consistent when life is busy or circumstances change.
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