About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a licensed clinical social worker who helps people manage stress, anxiety, trauma, and depression. She also supports those facing relationship strain, grief, parenting stress, anger, career transitions, and compassion fatigue. Toby works in English and Spanish and practices from New York.
She aims to build a trusting relationship first. That trust becomes the base for practical work together. Sessions focus on discovering strengths people already have and building new coping skills.
How Toby works
Toby describes her role as a coach who guides problem solving and skill development. Her approach borrows from several methods. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is used to identify unhelpful thoughts and try different behaviors.
Attachment-based and emotionally focused ideas help people understand their close relationships and feelings. Dialectical skills are brought in when regulation and distress tolerance are needed. Toby has worked in clinical practice since 2001, bringing 25 years of experience to her work.
She pays attention to culture and identity when they affect a person’s concerns. That includes helping people from diverse backgrounds find ways to make therapy fit their lives. Sessions are typically weekly or every other week to keep progress steady.
She asks for clear communication about scheduling and rescheduling so regular meeting times can be maintained. People who want to start complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule a session according to availability.
Toby lists 13 ways of working on the entry:
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
What Toby works with
The areas below are the ones Toby selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Training and background
| Register | LCSW |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 25 |
| Languages | English, Spanish |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | New York |
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Online support options
Approaches that shape online sessions
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how close relationships affect feelings and behavior. Online sessions use this approach to help people notice patterns in relationships and try new ways of connecting. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy looks at how thoughts, feelings, and actions link together. In teletherapy CBT, clients learn to test unhelpful thoughts and practice different behaviors between sessions. Emotionally-Focused Therapy helps people identify and make sense of strong emotions; online sessions use talk and reflection to help people name feelings and respond differently.Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with the client to identify goals and pick methods that fit their needs and preferences. That plan can change as progress is made, combining approaches when that makes sense.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is useful when visual cues and a conversational pace matter. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or a simpler check-in is wanted. Live chat and text messaging make it possible to get shorter, flexible support between longer sessions. These options make therapy more accessible and easier to fit into a busy life.
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