About Anke
Anke Kalaiah greets visitors with calm, straightforward support for stress, anxiety, relationship strain, parenting challenges, and grief. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California and brings 15 years of clinical experience to her work. She speaks English and German and can guide people through life transitions, mood difficulties, and trauma-related concerns.
Anke uses simple, practical methods so people leave sessions with clear steps to try.
How Anke works
She listens first, then helps clients set short-term goals and learn skills to manage strong emotions. Her style centers on respect for each person’s knowledge about their life and on building tools that fit day-to-day realities. Her training includes a master’s degree in counseling psychology from Santa Clara University and a bachelor’s degree in German and social psychology from Ruhr University Bochum.
She became a California LMFT and has worked in a range of clinical settings over the past 15 years. That background informs her work with people facing trauma, domestic or sexual abuse, family conflict, divorce, blended family issues, and caregiving burdens. In sessions she blends client-centered work with cognitive behavioral techniques and dialectical behavior strategies.
She also uses mindfulness practices and motivational interviewing where helpful. The result is a flexible approach that addresses thinking patterns, emotion regulation, and practical behavior changes. People who meet with Anke can expect a collaborative tone.
She helps identify strengths, set realistic steps, and track progress over time. Her bilingual skills and multicultural experience support people navigating immigration, assimilation, and cultural family differences.
Anke lists 7 ways of working on the entry:
What Anke works with
The areas below are the ones Anke selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Parenting issues
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 15 |
| Languages | English, German |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | California |
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Online support options
How Anke’s approaches work online
Client-centered therapy starts by treating the person as the expert on their life. The therapist listens carefully, follows the client’s lead, and helps set goals that feel meaningful. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches practical exercises to change unhelpful patterns. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) focuses on teaching skills in mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness to reduce overwhelming reactions and improve relationships.Deciding which approach to use is a joint process. The therapist will talk with the client about current struggles, goals, and what feels comfortable, then suggest techniques to try. Sessions may shift over time so methods match changing needs and progress is checked together.
Online work is offered through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video calls let people meet face-to-face when a deeper conversation is needed. Phone sessions can fit a short break at work or be used when lower bandwidth is helpful. Live chat and text messaging are useful for quick check-ins, shorter coaching-style exchanges, or when someone prefers writing to speaking. These options make therapy more flexible and easier to fit into busy lives while keeping the same therapeutic approaches.
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