About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with four decades of clinical experience in California. He began his career working for county mental health services and has maintained a independent practice for many years. John draws on long experience with a wide range of concerns and meets people with warmth and directness.
In sessions he focuses on hearing each person’s story first. He treats clients as experts on their own lives and helps set practical goals together.
How John works
Conversations are straightforward and respectful, and he aims to make therapy feel personal rather than clinical. John uses approaches that include Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, attachment-based work, client-centered methods, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. He adapts these approaches to match what the person needs and what makes sense for their life.
Common issues he addresses include relationships, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related concerns, anxiety, depression, addictions, grief, parenting strains, and stress-related burnout such as compassion fatigue. He also works with ADHD, bipolar concerns, eating and sleeping problems, and life transitions like divorce and separation. People who choose John often want practical strategies alongside emotional understanding.
He combines skill-building exercises with deeper conversations about patterns and attachment. His long experience means he can offer tools and perspective across many kinds of challenges.
John lists 12 ways of working on the entry:
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
What John works with
The areas below are the ones John selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 40 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | California |
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Online support options
How his approaches translate to online therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people clarify what matters most to them and take actions that match those values, often using simple exercises to notice thoughts without getting stuck. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on practical skills to change unhelpful thinking and behavior patterns, useful for anxiety, depression, and stress. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape current patterns and helps people build more supported ways of relating.Finding the right approach is part of the process. John works collaboratively to choose methods that match a person’s goals and preferences. He often blends techniques so sessions fit the problem at hand and the person’s comfort level.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls provide face-to-face interaction for deep conversations and skills practice, while phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or a shorter check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging make it possible to share thoughts between sessions and fit care into a busy schedule. These options let people access experienced, licensed professionals from different locations and tailor format to what works best for them.
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