About Paula
Paula Kane offers a calm, steady presence for people who feel exhausted from keeping it together. She works with individuals who doubt themselves, feel stuck in painful relationship patterns, or carry the weight of past trauma. Sessions focus on helping people feel safer in their own bodies, set boundaries without guilt, and rebuild confidence in day-to-day life.
Paula brings 13 years of experience to each session and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, BACP.
How Paula works
She draws on several practical approaches so work is tailored to what a person needs in the moment. The pace is gentle and collaborative, letting people lead while she offers structure and explanation. Therapy often starts with making sense of patterns that cause distress, such as people-pleasing, overthinking, or shutting down.
Paula uses simple, teachable tools to reduce anxiety, calm the nervous system, and support better sleep and coping. She also helps people practise saying no and defending their boundaries without overwhelming guilt. People bring a wide range of concerns, including stress, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, relationship and intimacy issues, parenting strain, ADHD, eating and body image, and career pressures.
Additional focus areas include attachment and adoption-related issues, blended family challenges, chronic health concerns, and caregiver stress. Paula offers sessions in English and accepts international clients. Work can take place by video, phone, live chat, or text messaging, and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
Paula lists 7 ways of working on the entry:
What Paula works with
The areas below are the ones Paula selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
Also listed
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Parenting issues
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Trichotillomania
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | BACP |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 13 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | United Kingdom |
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Online support options
How Paula’s approaches translate to online care
Paula commonly uses attachment-based work to look at how early relationships shape current patterns and safety in relationships. This approach helps people notice repeated habits in connection and learn different ways of relating that feel safer.She also draws on client-centred counselling which focuses on listening, empathy and following the person’s pace. That approach gives space for someone to tell their story and decide what matters most to them in therapy.
Cognitive behavioural techniques are used alongside these approaches to identify unhelpful thoughts and try small behaviour changes that reduce anxiety and improve sleep or mood.
Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the process. Paula will work collaboratively to figure out which methods suit a person's goals, needs and comfort. Sessions evolve as progress is made and priorities change, so the plan is reviewed together over time.
Online sessions offer practical flexibility. Video calls let people read facial cues and use screen-shared worksheets. Phone sessions require less bandwidth and can fit into a short break. Live chat or text messaging work well for brief check-ins or when someone prefers typing to speaking. These options make it easier to keep therapy consistent around work, caregiving or travel.
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