About Richard
Richard Alongi is a licensed marriage and family therapist in California with decades of experience. He works with people facing addiction, anxiety, depression, grief, anger, and major life changes. He helps clients with relationship and intimacy concerns, self-esteem, career stress, and compassion fatigue.
He uses a direct, person-centered style. Sessions focus on clear goals and practical steps. Conversations are shaped around each person's needs and priorities.
He aims to create a respectful, compassionate space where clients can speak openly.
How Richard works
Richard draws on Attachment-Based ideas to look at how early bonds still affect adult relationships. Emotionally-Focused Therapy helps when strong feelings get in the way of closeness. He also uses Client-Centered Therapy to follow the client's pace and priorities.
His work includes attention to complex issues such as codependency, dissociation, abandonment, and co-morbidity. He also supports people navigating divorce, caregiving stress, aging concerns, and challenges related to BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture. With 36 years as a clinician, he adapts his approach over time.
Treatment plans are tailored and may include coaching elements to build skills outside sessions. The goal is steady progress toward clearer thinking, healthier relationships, and better daily functioning.
Richard lists 10 ways of working on the entry:
What Richard works with
The areas below are the ones Richard selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Co-morbidity
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Stress, Anxiety
- Women's issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | LMFT |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 36 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | California |
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Online support options
How his approaches translate to online work
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early relationship patterns shape current connections and emotional responses; it can help people understand repeated hurt and build healthier bonds. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) concentrates on identifying and reshaping strong emotions that block closeness, which is useful for managing intense anxiety, grief, or relational pain. Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes listening and following the client’s pace, giving people space to set their own goals and decide what to work on.Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. He will talk with the client about needs, goals, and preferences and then recommend which methods to try. That decision is collaborative and can shift as progress is made.
Online therapy offers flexibility for different schedules and situations. Video calls allow face-to-face interaction when visual cues matter, phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier during busy days, and live chat or text-based messaging fit quick check-ins or ongoing support between sessions. These options make it simpler to fit therapy into work breaks, caregiving routines, or long-distance living while keeping the focus on practical change and emotional insight.
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