About Stanley
Stanley Okafor is a BACP counsellor with 15 years of experience. He offers one-to-one psychotherapy that focuses on practical change and better coping. His style is warm and straightforward, aimed at people who want clear steps forward.
He mainly uses cognitive behavioural therapy, but brings in client-centred, emotionally-focused and solution-focused ideas when they help. Sessions aim to identify patterns that keep problems going and then work on small, manageable changes.
How Stanley works
Mindfulness techniques are used to help people stay calmer in difficult moments. Stanley has worked across independent practice, forensic settings and the NHS, including a senior role in a large NHS Trust. That background means he has experience with a wide range of issues from anxiety and depression to trauma, addiction and anger.
He also runs group work for anger management in forensic services. People come for help with stress, relationship and intimacy concerns, grief, parenting strain, career change, sleep and eating issues, low self-esteem and compassion fatigue. He also supports those facing adoption or foster care questions, attachment and neurodiversity concerns, and problems linked to domestic violence or substance misuse.
Initial sessions include an assessment of current difficulties and any risks, and then a plan is agreed. Stanley prioritises building trust and a non-judgemental atmosphere so people can speak openly. He keeps the work practical and tailored, with a focus on sustainable change rather than quick fixes.
Stanley lists 6 ways of working on the entry:
What Stanley works with
The areas below are the ones Stanley selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Paranoia
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Training and background
| Register | BACP |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 15 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | United Kingdom |
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Online support options
How these approaches work online and what to expect
Client-Centred Therapy focuses on listening and creating space for people to tell their story. Online sessions using this approach aim to build trust and help people set goals at their own pace. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at how thoughts and behaviours keep problems going and uses practical exercises to change them, which suits issues like anxiety, low mood and sleep problems. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) helps people notice and name emotions that affect relationships and intimacy, and it can be used in one-to-one work to improve how someone manages emotional responses.Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk through goals, try different techniques and agree what feels most helpful. This collaborative process means methods can be adapted over time to match changing needs and preferences.
Online therapy offers a range of session types to fit different situations. Video calls allow face-to-face discussion and exercises. Phone sessions can be shorter check-ins or useful when bandwidth is low. Live chat and text-based messaging suit people who prefer writing, need brief on-the-go support or want to reflect before responding. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, caring duties and other life demands.
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