About Toby
Toby "Benjamin" Stimpson uses an integrative, evidence-informed approach to counselling. Benjamin is a BACP and NCPS registered practitioner with six years of work in Canada and the United Kingdom. They focus on helping adults untangle anxiety, stress and problems with intimacy.
Their aim is practical - to identify patterns and find steps that feel manageable. Benjamin helps people understand difficult relationship patterns, and the ways self-image and belonging affect everyday life.
How Toby works
Sessions often start with identifying repeating dynamics and simple experiments to try between meetings. The work can include talking through identity questions, sexual culture, and challenges that come from moving countries. They have experience supporting people who are LGBT, neurodiverse, part of geek culture, or involved in alternative spiritual traditions.
Benjamin also offers coaching-style work for those wanting clearer goals around confidence and relationships. They are comfortable discussing kink and alternative sex culture in a non-judgemental way. Over 1,400 hours of direct client contact underpin their practice, and they draw on multiple therapeutic techniques to match each person’s needs.
Sessions are offered to adults aged 18 and over. Therapy is delivered online through video, phone, live chat or text-based messaging. Benjamin describes therapy as a collaborative process.
They work steadily to help people notice what keeps problems repeating and to build practical changes that fit daily life.
What Toby works with
The areas below are the ones Toby selected when setting up a profile. The first few are listed as the main focus; the rest are also named.
Also listed
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Immigration issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
Training and background
| Registers | BACP, NCPS |
|---|---|
| Years in practice | 6 |
| Languages | English |
| Session format | Online: video, phone, live chat or messaging |
| Country | United Kingdom |
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Online support options
How Benjamin works online with evidence-informed methods
Benjamin usually combines a few evidence-based techniques to suit each person. One common strand is working to map patterns in relationships and behaviour, which helps identify what keeps anxiety or emptiness returning and suggests small, practical steps to change those cycles. Another frequent element is goal-oriented coaching, which breaks larger worries into specific, manageable actions for confidence and intimacy work.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Benjamin will discuss different ways of working and decide together which fits your needs, goals and preferences. That collaborative process can include trying a short experiment and reviewing how it felt before committing to a longer approach.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. Video is useful for deeper conversational work and reading non-verbal cues. Phone sessions can be a good option when bandwidth is limited or for a quick check-in. Live chat and messaging work well for people who prefer writing, need short practical support, or want flexible timing. These options make it easier to fit therapy into work, study or family schedules.
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